You know. We can't make them want to talk to us. We can't make them want to trust us. We can't make their life choices smooth and easy for them.
Much as we might want to.
We are there. I'm going to say that Doug sure as hell knew he could talk to me. Circumstances and his choices are what made it so that he didn't. Doesn't make things any easier for me and I can tell myself it's my fault all I want, but I'd rather not add this as well on top of things right now, no way. And yes, this involves the fact that several people have told me to not do that. I'm trying to listen.
There's a line beyond what we can do and what is up to them to decide to do and it's not one we can push beyond of. I've been here over a year and while the kids are slowly growing up and starting to see there's more to life than what they decide there is, they're still not done growing up yet.
And for all that they're teenagers and like to do the finger pointing thing a lot, they are also used to far more independence than the average kid. And ultimately, they're responsible for their own actions and choices.
Some of the kids do trust us and talk to us. Some do stay out of trouble. It's just that the ones who get in trouble tend to do it in the most spectacular way in creation so we tend to forget the rest. Comes with the territory, the way things are that much bigger as well as the powers and backgrounds people have here. We just plain aren't a normal school.
As for the mentoring - some of us already do that. Others who want to should as well, obviously. And you could easily say that it's one of "mine" who hauled off and did the Stupid, if that's how you want to look at it. Wish he'd talked to me or someone else, you have no idea how much. But he didn't and that was his choice, as much as I wish he'd chosen to do otherwise.
And now if you haven't had any sleep since I left the medlab, I'm going to head back down and make sure you do just that.
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Date: 2004-10-24 10:49 am (UTC)You know. We can't make them want to talk to us. We can't make them want to trust us. We can't make their life choices smooth and easy for them.
Much as we might want to.
We are there. I'm going to say that Doug sure as hell knew he could talk to me. Circumstances and his choices are what made it so that he didn't. Doesn't make things any easier for me and I can tell myself it's my fault all I want, but I'd rather not add this as well on top of things right now, no way. And yes, this involves the fact that several people have told me to not do that. I'm trying to listen.
There's a line beyond what we can do and what is up to them to decide to do and it's not one we can push beyond of. I've been here over a year and while the kids are slowly growing up and starting to see there's more to life than what they decide there is, they're still not done growing up yet.
And for all that they're teenagers and like to do the finger pointing thing a lot, they are also used to far more independence than the average kid. And ultimately, they're responsible for their own actions and choices.
Some of the kids do trust us and talk to us. Some do stay out of trouble. It's just that the ones who get in trouble tend to do it in the most spectacular way in creation so we tend to forget the rest. Comes with the territory, the way things are that much bigger as well as the powers and backgrounds people have here. We just plain aren't a normal school.
As for the mentoring - some of us already do that. Others who want to should as well, obviously. And you could easily say that it's one of "mine" who hauled off and did the Stupid, if that's how you want to look at it. Wish he'd talked to me or someone else, you have no idea how much. But he didn't and that was his choice, as much as I wish he'd chosen to do otherwise.
And now if you haven't had any sleep since I left the medlab, I'm going to head back down and make sure you do just that.